1.58 years old

Don’t know why I still come back to this space ever so once in a while (like some annual post here. It’s always when I’m in some random spur of super reflective introspective mode.

Last I wrote I was 8 months into work, and I was trying desperately to breathe and to hold on and to hang on, and to not let myself drown. 10 months later… I know I can breathe a bit better, but I also do know that with time, experience and knowledge I have to be able to learn how to help myself breathe for the long run, especially since soooo much has happened in the last 10 months. I went to Korea with my 2/3 of my best friends, dealt with a crisis case, started on yoga, went to Phuket with #plot33, moved house, started planning for a 50th anniversary gathering, did the 2nd half of my wisdom tooth surgery, booked my trip to Korea for the year, and started to work towards changing of workplaces as my (already decided) time in my current place has begun to end.

I also started to learn how to deal with my anxiety better and pamper myself still. I’ve faced many personal losses and confrontations about truths about myself and life and the world in general. I’ve begun to read more, eat better and exercise well. But most important I’ve started to dream more, love well, give my all, take less, and trust in the courage I have and choose vulnerability, irregardless. So here’s to the continuous fight for more grace and empathy in my own life, and to building it in the lives of others.

Run, and don’t hide.


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53 Quotes That Will Make You Rethink Everything

Thought Catalog

1. “Everything you can imagine is real.” ― Pablo Picasso

2. “I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” ― Gilda Radner

3. “The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.” ― Isaac Asimov

4. “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to…

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10 things I’ve learned during my 4 years at Tufts

Everything, esp. 5 (always believe that when doors close at least a window will open)

You've got a fast car

1. It is as important to hold back your words as it is to speak up.

It requires a tremendous and commendable amount of self-control. I know it’s popular to be loud about things, but the loudest voices aren’t always the wisest. It really is okay to think first, and react later, even if it means appearing like you don’t have an opinion. And if it hurts someone unnecessarily, maybe it really isn’t worth saying.

2. Your firmest beliefs will be challenged.

I came into Tufts with a Christian faith that looked very different than it does now. Nothing stays stagnant if it matters to you – you probe it uncomfortable with second opinions and questions. Sometimes this leads you towards conviction, and other times your convictions get pried out of the ground, completely uprooted, with a remaining “what now?” hanging in the air.

3. Your race matters. 

It really…

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“I Think We Should Just Be Friends.”

Thought Catalog

You are lying awake in bed, staring at the ceiling. It is half past seven on a Sunday evening but you don’t feel like doing anything. All you want to do is curl up into a ball and cry, but the tears don’t come. Your eyes are hot and itchy, but you tell yourself it’s hayfever and carry on staring at the ceiling, the cracks and the blu-tack pockmarks and the falling down posters which you know so well.

You keep thinking back to that time when you lay next to them, and they looked up at the same ceiling as you, and they made jokes about your decor, and you laughed. You can’t seem to shake it, how you felt lying next to them, the feel of skin against skin. You were both naked, but it didn’t seem to matter. You were unabashed and — you are pretty sure…

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Cloud Thoughts

On June 10th, 2012, I married my best friend.  It sounds so typical, but really, he is.  Nobody else knows me on a level like that.  He has seen me at my best and seen my ugliness right up in his face.  He has made me cry more tears of joy than tears of pain.  I am most vulnerable to him, but I trust him to care for my unpredictable heart.  Sharing this video about our wedding is not just about the big day itself, but the 1,503 that came before it to get there, and the uncountable things that God has done to get us ready.  Ready to not be husband and wife, but to begin to learn how to be a husband and a wife.

Anyone who has experienced being in love knows that it’s just beautiful.  Time slows down, minutes swell with meaning, yet you blink an…

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