Choice 选择

最近总在反省人生的时候,总会想到过去大概对自己人生必须负起责任的七八年做过的一切抉择与给予其他人的承诺。因为年轻,做出的选择并非是最理智,最正确的。因为年轻,做出的选择是冲动,是无法理解的。也因为年轻,做出的选择也许是最可怕的,但也同时是最重要的。

我们都有自己需要走的路。

一路上必须做出的选择,有时候会伤害到自己心疼的人,很多时候做出了选择之后,总是回头看自己做的选择,并且怀疑自己选择走的路,是否是最正确的。但是正确的路应该不存在吧。我你他与她,都生长在不同的家庭环境,上的学校不一样,遇见的朋友老师工作伙伴都不一样,做事情的方式不一样,经历过的事情也只属于你一个,看事情的角度当然就不一样。

当时的你,是受伤的。当时的你,想着其他人向你表示他们想离开你珍贵的家庭的时候,你是心碎的。你学会建起高高无人能攀的心墙来保护自己,让自己不再破裂。但到你得做出与他们相同的选择的时候,你才真的了解了。你曾以为你能够代替所有人的份帮他们坚强,谁又会代替你而坚强?你穿上的武装,你戴上的面具,只有爱你超过爱自己的人会愿意付出所有让你卸下那武装,让你摘下那面具,允许你的任性,允许你的软弱。无论别人怎么说,还是我们自己必须做选择,选择之后,路还是得自己走。庆幸的是,路上能够拥有知己,让我们能够坦诚的面对自己与自己做的选择。后悔做过的选择,只会让我们活在那份痛苦中,不如勇敢的抉择,勇敢的继续走自己想要走的路吧!

53 Quotes That Will Make You Rethink Everything

Thought Catalog

1. “Everything you can imagine is real.” ― Pablo Picasso

2. “I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” ― Gilda Radner

3. “The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.” ― Isaac Asimov

4. “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to…

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10 things I’ve learned during my 4 years at Tufts

Everything, esp. 5 (always believe that when doors close at least a window will open)

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1. It is as important to hold back your words as it is to speak up.

It requires a tremendous and commendable amount of self-control. I know it’s popular to be loud about things, but the loudest voices aren’t always the wisest. It really is okay to think first, and react later, even if it means appearing like you don’t have an opinion. And if it hurts someone unnecessarily, maybe it really isn’t worth saying.

2. Your firmest beliefs will be challenged.

I came into Tufts with a Christian faith that looked very different than it does now. Nothing stays stagnant if it matters to you – you probe it uncomfortable with second opinions and questions. Sometimes this leads you towards conviction, and other times your convictions get pried out of the ground, completely uprooted, with a remaining “what now?” hanging in the air.

3. Your race matters. 

It really…

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“I Think We Should Just Be Friends.”

Thought Catalog

You are lying awake in bed, staring at the ceiling. It is half past seven on a Sunday evening but you don’t feel like doing anything. All you want to do is curl up into a ball and cry, but the tears don’t come. Your eyes are hot and itchy, but you tell yourself it’s hayfever and carry on staring at the ceiling, the cracks and the blu-tack pockmarks and the falling down posters which you know so well.

You keep thinking back to that time when you lay next to them, and they looked up at the same ceiling as you, and they made jokes about your decor, and you laughed. You can’t seem to shake it, how you felt lying next to them, the feel of skin against skin. You were both naked, but it didn’t seem to matter. You were unabashed and — you are pretty sure…

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Wait.

Cloud Thoughts

On June 10th, 2012, I married my best friend.  It sounds so typical, but really, he is.  Nobody else knows me on a level like that.  He has seen me at my best and seen my ugliness right up in his face.  He has made me cry more tears of joy than tears of pain.  I am most vulnerable to him, but I trust him to care for my unpredictable heart.  Sharing this video about our wedding is not just about the big day itself, but the 1,503 that came before it to get there, and the uncountable things that God has done to get us ready.  Ready to not be husband and wife, but to begin to learn how to be a husband and a wife.

Anyone who has experienced being in love knows that it’s just beautiful.  Time slows down, minutes swell with meaning, yet you blink an…

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“Two, it’ll always appear easier, smoother, prettier, better, greener, on the other side. This is why it’s so frightening when we struggle — because based on appearances we’re the only one’s having difficulties, even though that’s far from the case.”